Thursday, February 17, 2011

Thoughts on future

I want to be a mother.  There has never been a doubt in my mind about this.  All of my 'life decisions' from career and education and even some of my hobbies have been either to make me a better person (aka Mother) or something that allows me to stay at home with my kids.

I am the oldest of five kids.  I've helped my mom raise the younger ones. I'm asked to babysit often and I take kids out so their parents can listen at church.  I love it.  I love working with kids, how they think outside the box and do unexpected things. 

While doing some planning with my sister, we've decided that we want to do foster care.  Being able to give a safe, calm and drama-free home to someone in need has always been a goal of our family.  Now we want to make it available for those that need it the most. 

Wednesday, February 16, 2011


A few weeks ago, I went shopping with Kumquat and Frau Mutter for clothes for Kumquat. While at the local mall, we went into an Asian boutique - Trung Thanh Fashion. It had many different dresses and outfits that seemed rather traditional Asian theme.  I tried on a few, but unfortunately, I'm a bit more curvier that most Asian women. Then I found it. It called to me from across the store. 

A denim dress that  flows and fits me perfectly.  (pictures on facebook)  I've named it 'If Morticia Adams was a cowgirl.'

This dress makes me feel pretty.  I try to wear it about once a week, since it's so comfy and makes me feel pretty.  I can wear for both work and casual, church and Saturday laziness.

A new project of mine is to make a pattern out of this dress, since it fits me so well, I might as well keep the pattern so I can make more.  Having other similar dresses will help keep me from wearing out my new pretty.

I've also gotten into the habit of stealing Kumquat's clothes and shoes.  She has an amazing sense of style and we are about the same size.  She steals some of mine so I think its a trade off.  I've also kinda claimed one of her jackets as mine, but she hasn't complained. yet.

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

Book Review: Finishing Touches

Finishing Touches by Hester Browne Being feminine and elegant doesn't mean acting like you're from the 1950's, or before. It means being a respectable woman no matter what time you're in.

In the book 'Finishing Touches' we learn how to merge old school finishing school with modern how-to's. The main character Betsy grew up in the last finishing school in London. She learned it all. She then was sent to University, only to come back in time to save the school from closing.

The book flowed really well, with interesting characters, though predictable plot.  What I liked best was the helpful hints scattered strategically into the story. My favorite so far being "BLT" Buttons fastened, Lipstick fresh and Teeth clean, used when about to go meet with anyone (interview, dinner, date, etc)

The book makes me wish there were schools like this. Teaching women (and even men) how to present their best, be independent and socially acceptable (if not admirable!).  It's amazing how knowing how to dress to fit you, be confident in yourself and being knowledgeable in social intricacies can help one's life.  I defiantly want to wear skirts more to work, and see how that goes.  Which segues into this Interesting article on dressing feminine at work while still being taken seriously. 

I checked the book out from the library and I defiantly recommend it to add to the reading pile. And take notes while reading!

Monday, August 9, 2010

Catching and giving emotions.

Women are community based. We need people, especially other women. Why? It’s how we socialize. We rely on others for knowledge and advice. Our emotions can also rely on others. It’s a basic fact that people need people.

If we’re around good happy people, we tend to make better decisions; we tend to be happier and vice versa. Emotions are contagious. Happiness, smiling, depression, panic, and hate are all emotions that we can ‘catch’ from those around us.
Not only can we catch emotions from others, but we can give them to others. And that’s good! Women tend to be more open to the emotions of others. We can influence them for the good and bad.

Ever been in a toxic relationship? A friend that drains you emotionally whenever you are with them. That gossips, complains, causes drama, so many things that you do not need in your life.

Have any positive relationships. A friend that gives advice to problems, where you relax when with them, if not emotionally recharge?

You can be that positive person. The one that doesn’t allow toxic emotions or thoughts in others, that influences for the better. The more we help others, the more we even help ourselves. When we encourage emotions in others they are less likely to be negative and therefore no drain you. People will want to be around you more and you will be able to help and expand your friendships. And possibly even encourage those that are toxic to become more positive.

A true feminine woman attracts others with her aura. She doesn't complain, she fixes; she doesn't abuse, she rehabilitates; she doesn't preach, she lives.

Thursday, July 29, 2010


I updated the links that I currently use on becoming more feminine. These are pretty much what I have in Google Reader right now, and might edit them once I get home from work. I might even go review each of them.

One thing I have noticed in my research is a lack finishing schools or deportment classes. Many of these websites have a 'woe young women, they don't know how to act/dress/be feminine' attitude. And I agree. Current culture/trends point women away from being feminine, which makes it difficult to make the women want to be feminine and even have resources to learn from.

This article explains what finishing schools were and reasons behind their decline. I have a friend who once mentioned how in her school she had a deportment class as an elective. Another friend who's mother sent her to finishing school at different ages.

We learn from example and from being sat down and taught. We have few examples in modern times of truly elegant and feminine women that encourage such qualities. I read my blogs for encouragement and ideas. I have a few friends that are also hold their qualities in their own way. I have to dig through books, pick apart personalities and stumble my way through on my own when learning. No wonder women are no longer being 'feminine. I want to be so and have so much trouble finding the definition.

Friday, July 23, 2010

Day 1

My plan was to do curls (which I've been told accentuates my curves and makes me look more feminine) and make-up.

That didn't happen. I went to bed late and woke up also late. Need to work on that.

Luckily I also have some make-up at work, and since I get to work rather early, I was able to put some on. Basic eye-liner, eye-shadow and lip-stick.

I even wore part of my red salwar suit. I usually don't wear the pants, they look funny to me, but the top is always fun. I was even complimented a few times!

Thursday, July 22, 2010

A Start

For the last few months I've been reading and researching a new topic for me: 'Femininity.'

I think of my self as being passingly feminine.  Mostly traits that have been deeply ingrained into me as a child or natural tendencies. But I also know that I'm defiantly not close to some more well known women who can be known for being both admirable and feminine.

There are a number of sites and blogs that talk about what it means to be feminine, the benefits, and what not to do. The information seemed vague, theoretical and mostly 'big picture.'  I had trouble finding sites that helped with practical, day to day applications on what it means to be feminine.

I hope to portray a practical living of a feminine life and how I learn what it means and it's impact on my life.